True Happiness in the Inner Man

True Happiness in the Inner Man

By Thinking P'Noy   8:42 AM   No comments :

 

 

How to be happy in this life? True happiness means enjoyment. If we enjoy dancing, for example, then such a hobby is pleasurable to us. But we can be happy by just sitting down if we enjoy the moment.

 

Charles Spurgeon once said that "It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness."

 

True Happiness Lives Within US

True happiness lives inside of us. It is not the activity of dancing, for example, that gives us a sense of real satisfaction, for people go to the dance even in the hour of sadness.

 

 

Even the thought of dancing gives us delight if it gives us pleasure doing it. True happiness just stays in our heart even in the absence of things that give us pleasure. It always becomes a part of us if we are contented and peaceful.

Jesus Christ did not experience the pleasure of a rich man. There is even no record that He did laugh. But at the moment of His death and in the presence of His murderers, He prayed "Father, forgive them."

Jesus Christ did not experience the pleasure of a rich man. There is even no record that He did laugh. But at the moment of His death and in the presence of His murderers, He prayed "Father, forgive them."

Charles Spurgeon once said that "It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness."

True Happiness Versus Our Resistance to Accepting Realities

Someone has well said that the first solution to a problem is the acceptance that it exists. The primary cause of our unhappiness, therefore, is our resistance to accepting realities. We have a problem, an empty something, a vacuum inside us that we need to fill with truth and reason.

This EMPTY SOMETHING that causes us dissatisfaction and discontent may be termed as the three questions of life. We have heard them already. The first query is, why are we here; second, where did we come from; and third, where shall we go from here?

True Happiness Comes From God

True happiness comes from a satisfactory answer to the above questions of life. And the answer is the first four words of the Holy Bible: "In the beginning God."

Why are we here? The answer is "In the beginning God." The same key to the last two questions: God!

Adam of old experienced the same empty something after being catapulted out of paradise. Then, he was profoundly in search for meaning! He had to answer the questions of life to be happy.

Why are we here? Where did we come from? Where shall we go from here? Answer them, Adam, and you'll be happy! That's it.

"Come to Me," Christ gave an invitation to all of us, "all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest." (Matt. 11:28) Yes, "rest" here means a real sense of happiness, satisfaction, and assurance.

True Happiness Does Not Come From Fame and Riches

True happiness, therefore, does not come even amidst riches, fame, intelligence, and good looks once the thought of becoming old, sick, and dying starts to invade your peace.

Remember the Billionaire Manny Pacquiao conversion and his real trust in Jesus Christ as his personal Lord and Savior. Fame and riches did not provide the boxer Pacquiao true happiness in life until he came to Christ by faith.

Remember the Billionaire Manny Pacquiao conversion and his real trust in Jesus Christ as his personal Lord and Savior. Fame and riches did not provide the boxer Pacquiao true happiness in life until he came to Christ by faith.

Contentment, satisfaction, cheerfulness, joy, delight, good spirits, lightheartedness, well-being, enjoyment---these are the synonyms for happiness. And it is felt as a positive emotion of the inner person. True happiness resides in the inner man. It is not something outside of the person. Will you be truly happy, for example, having received the insurance benefits of your beloved someone--benefits from the policy of a dead wife or child? Certainly, not. True happiness thus, cannot be bought with money for it is all about yourself, not any stimulus outside of your being.

What is that empty something that's somehow invading our happy serenity? Well, it is that feeling of vulnerability, rejection, hopelessness, insecurity, irrational ambition, selfishness, a guilty conscience, a sense of sinfulness--a feeling of being unclean, wicked and godless inside of us.

Socrates taught us to "Know thyself" but failed to teach us how! Know thyself; answer the three questions of life--and you will be happy.

Christ has the answer--He is the Answer: "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."

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Beautiful Women Who are Unloved and Abandoned

Beautiful Women Who are Unloved and Abandoned

By Thinking P'Noy   10:54 AM   No comments :

Have you heard of some beautiful women having no husband, single moms and unloved, whereas the less attractive ones more loved and having families to call their own? They said that love relationship is about compatibility and happiness that those gifted with good looks don't have the real sense of humility to offer in helping build the marital union. As regards marriage, most beauties are happier as a towering corporate personality than as a wife. For most men prefer a long lasting relationship and partnership, which is more than the lifespan of beauty---more than what most beautiful women desire to achieve in life.

 

They said that love relationship is about compatibility and happiness that those gifted with good looks don't have the real sense of humility to offer in helping build the marital union. As regards marriage, most beauties are happier as a towering corporate personality than as a wife.

 

Beautiful Women Are Seduced and Conquered By Irresponsible Men

They say that we need not make generalizations for there are beautiful women who are also successful as career persons, mothers, and wives. But let's face it: the more attractive the woman, the more the admirers and the possibility of choosing the wrong man. In fairness, I came across a blog that seemed to put the blame on the men in trying to defend the failures of most beautiful women. The author said that "The more attractive the woman, the more likely she will be approached by the kind of man who approaches attractive women. This kind of man views hunting, seducing and conquering women as sport."

Well said. But our concern is the ability of the beautiful women to be loved honestly irrespective of the admirers.

Beautiful Women Need to Understand
the Dynamics of a Healthy Marital Union

My thesis is that most beautiful women don't understand the dynamics of man-woman (or husband-wife) relationship. What is it?

They demand value for their beauty, just like selling something that's of high quality. "If you love me," demands Miss Beautiful, "you must provide me all my wants. After all, "I have beauty, not all have."

Well, such an attitude is acceptable, for behind the success of most women lies beauty, good looks, pleasing personality! But as regards the marital union, most beauties are happier as an employee than as a wife. Sad that most of them don't understand that majority of men marry for the sake of life partnership, and not in a sense of a home decor.

Beautiful Women Tend to Ignore Character Building

Yes, what would life partnership look like, for example, when Miss Beautiful requires her man to worship her good looks and loveliness? With all the natural gifts of most movie female superstars---their acting, singing, good looks, popularity---only a handful of them landed a real marriage, and only by sacrificing their career.

Have you heard of this expression: "I buried two husbands already!" It is coming from the widows (mostly old and losing any trace of good looks already!) who understand man's love better than most failed-in-marriage celebrities.

Man's love, I mean the love of a responsible and mature man, is always anchored on life partnership. Marrying a woman for the sake of beauty, so they say, is just like buying a mobile phone because of the color.

Most successful wives, the Leni Robredo type, never demand value of their beauty more than their character and inner loveliness.

If your wife is so beautiful and exceptional as a life partner, then you're a lucky person, like the man winning the lotto jackpot! Just don't look back on her past if she had a bad one!

My straightforward and unsolicited advice to the beautiful women who failed in marriage is this:

"'Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.bFor the husband is the head of the wife.' 'Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."'" (Eph. 5:22-23a; Gen. 2:18)

Why is it that most beautiful women are single moms, abandoned wives, or divorcees, whereas the less attractive ones have men beside them who are willing to die in the name of their love? Well, it is because Miss Beautiful is demanding too much value on her beauty, and less value on her character.

Character contributes to beauty. It fortifies a woman as her youth fades. A mode of conduct, a standard of courage, discipline, fortitude, and integrity can do a great deal to make a woman beautiful. -- Jacqueline Bisset

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Views that WaterMerged Publish

Views that WaterMerged Publish

By Thinking P'Noy   10:51 PM   No comments :

WaterMerged was a merger of many topics from my other sites that have become inaccessible due to reasons that I had already discussed briefly in this link.

Aside from writing about my personal observations in the fields of politics, culture or religion, I also include in WaterMerged subjects that involve a thorough research like natural remedies to maintain good health, scientific updates, technology, and the paranormal or bizarre topics.

 

I wrote somewhere that I "created [my site] for the purpose of sharing ideas and observations in the areas of politics, culture, health, family, education and religion. We don't pretend any authority at all in the subjects that we will be covering here. It is an opinion blog."

Aside from writing about my personal observations in the fields of politics, culture or religion, I also include in WaterMerged subjects that involve a thorough research like natural remedies to maintain good health, scientific updates, technology, and the paranormal or bizarre topics.

In WaterMerged, we also would want to publish factual and well-researched articles, not just personal views.

With regards to opinions, I wrote that we "need to have a particular perspective on things to enable us to use one of our greatest powers on earth: the authority to make a decision! I don't mean we need to study all things around us and then give our opinion about them, for doing so is impossible. Even the geniuses don't have such a godly gift. What we need, first and foremost, is our opinion to our ourselves. True, the greatest problem of man is himself, his criticism or super appreciation of himself. Hence the need for a realistic guesstimate of who we are."

Sharing our balanced views is also a real blog core theme that WaterMerged intends to take up.

I want to share a good quote from Jim Gaffigan: "Comics write to their point of view. If you're an exceedingly irreverent comedian, you've got to see where that point of view fits or produces the most funny."

Hence, it is important for WaterMerged to carry a more educated view in the angle of writing opinions. As mentioned, this site also intends to publish the more academic and facts-based papers.

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Happy Family Building Versus God's Involvement

Happy Family Building Versus God's Involvement

By Thinking P'Noy   7:02 PM   No comments :

One rich man told his audience: "Well, I often told my children that success is not just real hard work, for there are many hardworking businesspeople who didn't make it to the top. I believe in luck!" Do you think this principle also applies to marriage? How to build a happy family?

 

Conviction and Faith Needed
in Building a Happy Family

Building a happy family requires judgment call and faith. Call it luck, but I have another term for it: God's blessing and intervention. Without belief in God and your life partner, then there can be no truly happy family that will come to your home. I mentioned God, because in Psalm 127:1, the Bible says that:

Unless the Lord builds the house, They labor in vain who build it.

God's Involvement is the Key to Building a Happy Family

Building a happy family requires the building of trust and confidence between spouses. And common faith in God is vital to reach that. Yes, shared conviction and faith.

Sin, or let's call it as the involvement of a third party, is death to the family. Avoid having an illicit relationship and you will be forever happy with your loved ones.

To bear children is another key in the establishment of a happy family. Wives, avoid being very unreasonable sometimes. And husbands, love your wife to death. Prov 19:14-24 says:

House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the Lord. Laziness casts into a deep sleep, And an idle man will suffer hunger. . . . Discipline your son while there is hope, And do not desire his death. A man of great anger will bear the penalty...Listen to counsel and accept discipline, That you may be wise the rest of your days. Many plans are in a man's heart, But the counsel of the Lord will stand. What is desirable in a man is his kindness, And it is better to be a poor man than a liar. The fear of the Lord leads to life, So that one may sleep satisfied, untouched by evil. The sluggard buries his hand in the dish, But will not even bring it back to his mouth.

The above verses speak of prudence, fear of the Lord, wisdom, discipline, hard work and hope. These are sound principles that are necessary for establishing a happy family. And they all come from the Holy Bible---from God!

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