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Friday, July 22, 2016

Thinking P'Noy

Beautiful Women Who are Unloved and Abandoned


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Have you heard of some beautiful women having no husband, single moms and unloved, whereas the less attractive ones more loved and having families to call their own? They said that love relationship is about compatibility and happiness that those gifted with good looks don't have the real sense of humility to offer in helping build the marital union. As regards marriage, most beauties are happier as a towering corporate personality than as a wife. For most men prefer a long lasting relationship and partnership, which is more than the lifespan of beauty---more than what most beautiful women desire to achieve in life.






 

They said that love relationship is about compatibility and happiness that those gifted with good looks don't have the real sense of humility to offer in helping build the marital union. As regards marriage, most beauties are happier as a towering corporate personality than as a wife.
 

Beautiful Women Are Seduced and Conquered By Irresponsible Men


They say that we need not make generalizations for there are beautiful women who are also successful as career persons, mothers, and wives. But let's face it: the more attractive the woman, the more the admirers and the possibility of choosing the wrong man. In fairness, I came across a blog that seemed to put the blame on the men in trying to defend the failures of most beautiful women. The author said that "The more attractive the woman, the more likely she will be approached by the kind of man who approaches attractive women. This kind of man views hunting, seducing and conquering women as sport."


Well said. But our concern is the ability of the beautiful women to be loved honestly irrespective of the admirers.


Beautiful Women Need to Understand
the Dynamics of a Healthy Marital Union


My thesis is that most beautiful women don't understand the dynamics of man-woman (or husband-wife) relationship. What is it?


They demand value for their beauty, just like selling something that's of high quality. "If you love me," demands Miss Beautiful, "you must provide me all my wants. After all, "I have beauty, not all have."


Well, such an attitude is acceptable, for behind the success of most women lies beauty, good looks, pleasing personality! But as regards the marital union, most beauties are happier as an employee than as a wife. Sad that most of them don't understand that majority of men marry for the sake of life partnership, and not in a sense of a home decor.


Beautiful Women Tend to Ignore Character Building


Yes, what would life partnership look like, for example, when Miss Beautiful requires her man to worship her good looks and loveliness? With all the natural gifts of most movie female superstars---their acting, singing, good looks, popularity---only a handful of them landed a real marriage, and only by sacrificing their career.


Have you heard of this expression: "I buried two husbands already!" It is coming from the widows (mostly old and losing any trace of good looks already!) who understand man's love better than most failed-in-marriage celebrities.


Man's love, I mean the love of a responsible and mature man, is always anchored on life partnership. Marrying a woman for the sake of beauty, so they say, is just like buying a mobile phone because of the color.


Most successful wives, the Leni Robredo type, never demand value of their beauty more than their character and inner loveliness.


If your wife is so beautiful and exceptional as a life partner, then you're a lucky person, like the man winning the lotto jackpot! Just don't look back on her past if she had a bad one!


My straightforward and unsolicited advice to the beautiful women who failed in marriage is this:

"'Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.bFor the husband is the head of the wife.' 'Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."'" (Eph. 5:22-23a; Gen. 2:18)

Why is it that most beautiful women are single moms, abandoned wives, or divorcees, whereas the less attractive ones have men beside them who are willing to die in the name of their love? Well, it is because Miss Beautiful is demanding too much value on her beauty, and less value on her character.

Character contributes to beauty. It fortifies a woman as her youth fades. A mode of conduct, a standard of courage, discipline, fortitude, and integrity can do a great deal to make a woman beautiful. -- Jacqueline Bisset
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Single Moms Phenomenon Ever Rising in the Philippines

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At least 10 percent of the 100 million Filipinos are unmarried teenage mothers from age 15 to 19. And this single moms phenomenon is rising, making the Philippines number one in Asia in teenage pregnancies and single moms.





 

Most Single Moms Don't Care About Becoming Pregnant


I have the privilege of interviewing many single moms, and I noticed that for the college graduates, ages 23-26 is the average age bracket where one becomes a mother but not a wife.


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One time, a confident single mom asked me this question: "How to determine a serious lover?"


At first, I pretended to be an expert on the subject. In reality, I didn't know how to answer her. Grappling for words, I said, "well, sex is man's greatest interest in a woman, loving or even marrying her is just second."


"If that's the case," she replied, "then it is tough to determine if the father of my child is serious about our relationship."


"That's why," I added, "a long engagement period (at least a year) is encouraged rather than engaging a sexual relationship with a man who's but a stranger to you."


I tried to explain to her that sex is supposed to be sacred, and marriage holy for they are God's. But, it seemed she wasn't interested in listening, for she was already apprehensive of losing her boyfriend forever.


The Single Moms Phenomenon
is Unstoppable and Will Continue to Rise


I believe that the single moms phenomenon will continue to invade the marriage-first-before-pregnancy culture because society as a whole is quite permissive about it. I think we, parents, have to help our daughters bear a godly perspective about life, marriage, and family.


Data from the National Statistics Office indicate that more than 37 percent of the 1.8 million babies born in the Philippines in 2008—at least 666,000—had unmarried mothers, representing a worrying increase of over 12 percent from the previous year and an upswing that has become a trend in recent times.
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